Comments on: Day Of Rest http://sarahblog.meetthealwards.com/2008/08/11/day-of-rest-2/ Answering the "How's Sarah?" question Sun, 20 May 2012 17:27:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Chad Felts http://sarahblog.meetthealwards.com/2008/08/11/day-of-rest-2/#comment-274 Chad Felts Mon, 18 Aug 2008 17:40:03 +0000 http://sarahblog.meetthealwards.com/2008/08/11/day-of-rest-2/#comment-274 So you've associated the "look" with the sezuires, but perhaps the commonality of it is the loss of control/scared or anticipation? So you’ve associated the “look” with the sezuires, but perhaps the commonality of it is the loss of control/scared or anticipation?

]]> By: Kelly (Abby's mom) http://sarahblog.meetthealwards.com/2008/08/11/day-of-rest-2/#comment-256 Kelly (Abby's mom) Mon, 11 Aug 2008 22:36:10 +0000 http://sarahblog.meetthealwards.com/2008/08/11/day-of-rest-2/#comment-256 Hang in there. Tough love is a great way to get them moving. There is nothing our kids can't do unless we make excuses for them. We are quite firm with Abby, and constantly watch her try to manipulate situations. Her therapist changed offices, and at the last one she knew that if she cried (because it IS hard) she could waste time with therapy, and then the receptionists would bring her candy and gift certificates for Burger King. Needless to say she learned to cry A LOT at therapy until I put my foot down. She also used to play a sleeping game (at 3 years old) with one speech therapist who bought into it, and when I observed I realized she could pretend to be asleep and then wouldn't have to talk - little booger. People feel sorry for our kids, but there isn't any reason to. Yes, it takes them a while to figure out how to do something, but you are absolutely on the right track. Keep her moving and keep pushing, and I PROMISE you will eventually have a day where her illness isn't the first thing you think about, and then you'll realize the whole day has gone by and it hasn't come up at all. Thinking of you from South Carolina - Can we PLEASE see more video of her talking? I love those. Kelly Hang in there. Tough love is a great way to get them moving. There is nothing our kids can’t do unless we make excuses for them. We are quite firm with Abby, and constantly watch her try to manipulate situations. Her therapist changed offices, and at the last one she knew that if she cried (because it IS hard) she could waste time with therapy, and then the receptionists would bring her candy and gift certificates for Burger King. Needless to say she learned to cry A LOT at therapy until I put my foot down. She also used to play a sleeping game (at 3 years old) with one speech therapist who bought into it, and when I observed I realized she could pretend to be asleep and then wouldn’t have to talk - little booger. People feel sorry for our kids, but there isn’t any reason to. Yes, it takes them a while to figure out how to do something, but you are absolutely on the right track. Keep her moving and keep pushing, and I PROMISE you will eventually have a day where her illness isn’t the first thing you think about, and then you’ll realize the whole day has gone by and it hasn’t come up at all. Thinking of you from South Carolina - Can we PLEASE see more video of her talking? I love those. Kelly

]]> By: Hollis's Mom (Jess) http://sarahblog.meetthealwards.com/2008/08/11/day-of-rest-2/#comment-255 Hollis's Mom (Jess) Mon, 11 Aug 2008 14:56:11 +0000 http://sarahblog.meetthealwards.com/2008/08/11/day-of-rest-2/#comment-255 I know the feeling of being the "tough love" parents: Hollis could once manipulate her way out of therapy with a look or fake crying, until we wised up and realized it was just her way of getting out of it! We also don't let her get away with bad behavior, and raise our voices, put her into time out, and I'm sure there are people who see it and think, "How could you do this to a child with special needs". If we didn't, she would get away with everything and her behavior would be even more of a challenge than it already is. I think if you show kids there's a time for work, and let them know you understand it's not fun, or sometimes uncomfortable, and give them lots of praise and love when it's done, everyone comes out better in the end. Good luck! We're keeping up with you here in Boston! I know the feeling of being the “tough love” parents: Hollis could once manipulate her way out of therapy with a look or fake crying, until we wised up and realized it was just her way of getting out of it! We also don’t let her get away with bad behavior, and raise our voices, put her into time out, and I’m sure there are people who see it and think, “How could you do this to a child with special needs”. If we didn’t, she would get away with everything and her behavior would be even more of a challenge than it already is. I think if you show kids there’s a time for work, and let them know you understand it’s not fun, or sometimes uncomfortable, and give them lots of praise and love when it’s done, everyone comes out better in the end. Good luck! We’re keeping up with you here in Boston!

]]> By: Marla Mathis http://sarahblog.meetthealwards.com/2008/08/11/day-of-rest-2/#comment-254 Marla Mathis Mon, 11 Aug 2008 13:35:12 +0000 http://sarahblog.meetthealwards.com/2008/08/11/day-of-rest-2/#comment-254 Joey- Believe me...you are not fooling Sarah one bit with your gruffness. Little girls know their Daddy's love them and are just trying to make them better. Sarah knows. Don't let the nurses and therapists give you a hard time. I know you are having a hard time keeping it together. You and Kim are amazing. I don't think I could do it. God must be holding you both in His arms. I am praying for you and this week I will specifically ask God to hold you closer and bring you comfort. Always- Marla Joey-
Believe me…you are not fooling Sarah one bit with your gruffness. Little girls know their Daddy’s love them and are just trying to make them better. Sarah knows. Don’t let the nurses and therapists give you a hard time.
I know you are having a hard time keeping it together. You and Kim are amazing. I don’t think I could do it. God must be holding you both in His arms.
I am praying for you and this week I will specifically ask God to hold you closer and bring you comfort.
Always-
Marla

]]> By: bakergardeners http://sarahblog.meetthealwards.com/2008/08/11/day-of-rest-2/#comment-253 bakergardeners Mon, 11 Aug 2008 12:42:36 +0000 http://sarahblog.meetthealwards.com/2008/08/11/day-of-rest-2/#comment-253 I think you are doing great! You have shown strength above and beyond any I have seen. I can only imagine what you are going through, but I feel that if I were in your place, I would have to be a little stern with Sarah to keep from just crumbling to pieces. Keeping her going when she thinks there is nothing left is the thing that will help her to a full recovery. You are in our prayers. Jim and Pat Baker I think you are doing great! You have shown strength above and beyond any I have seen.
I can only imagine what you are going through, but I feel that if I were in your place, I would have to be a little stern with Sarah to keep from just crumbling to pieces. Keeping her going when she thinks there is nothing left is the thing that will help her to a full recovery. You are in our prayers.

Jim and Pat Baker

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